I am sacred need advice?

I asked a question yesterday, This is a new My Girlfriend and I just found out today we are having twins. We are 16 years old. I know we shouldn't be having kids. But we are good parents our other 2 kids are happy and healthy. We are living with my parents my younger sisters. We have taken parenting classes. The one instructor comes to our house once and a while to see how we are doing. She can’t believe how well we are doing. Our oldest child is 3 years old. She is a sweetie. We just had a baby 2 months and 26 days ago. Yesterday I did say my baby girl is younger. I did not realize a long it has been. I work full time she works part time. We both go to school but right now we have tutors coming to our house. So we can stay home. My parents are supportive they love me my girl friend and there grandchildren. But they only finically support my girlfriend and I. We have to pay for our children. My parents help a little. That helps. To be honest being a father has made me a better person. I know that I made mistakes. At least I am taking care of my kids and girlfriend. I have insurance for my kids and my girlfriend and I feed them. I am nervous and I am happy about having twins. I love being a dad. I know I can afford another it. I don’t waste money. Every month my bank account is always positive. My GF puts her money she earns into the same account. We got money from her great grandpa and ma. That is in another account we have not touch that money yet. My girlfriend loves being a mom I love being a dad. She is a good mom. My GF is excited about having another baby. I am excited do. Our kids are healthy. We put our kids needs first. Please no rude comments I am taking care of my kids they are happy and healthy. To be honest we are happier now. We love being parents. Yes we are young. We are waiting a long time before we have sex again. I want to wait to have more kids. Until I am out of college. Were we work they threw us a baby shower for our last child. We got clothes, diapers, bottles, rags, a diaper bag, bibs, towels, and blankets stuff like that. I had to get strollers, cribs, nursery furniture and furnishings stuff like that. Car seat. They always do the same thing. I am nervous and scared. I am on paid leave at my job. I got injured at work. They are going pay me while i am on leave. I still get my paycheck every week. I don't know when i will be back at work. 1-3 plus months i am on leave. My questions are Are we crazy for keeping our kids? They are taken care of. What is life like with twins? What stuff should I get now to be prepared for twins? Is it wrong for teens to take care of there babies? What should I know about having twins? any advice to make me less nervous? we are good parents our family lawyer sends someone to our house to make sure everything is going ok

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1. yes you are young, but it is very good that you are taking care of your kids and your girlfriend, and that you both are still together. It is very cool that your parents are letting you both stay with them and help take care of you all financially. Having twins are just double the feedings, double the changes, and instead of you and your girlfriend taking turns with the baby, you both will be having to do everything because there will be 2 babies. but anyways why havnt you married her yet, i mean you already have 2 babies and now you will have 4, i think you should marry her
2. You're not crazy for keeping the kids, and there is nothing wrong with how you are handling it. All I can say is HOW on earth did you manage to knock her up twice more after the first one!?! It's not like you two didn't KNOW where babies come from. Have you EVER heard of condoms or the pill? Seriously. It's not about whether you're having sex, it's about having SAFE SEX!!!!! I've heard that it is harder to go from 1 kid to 2, than it is to go from 2 kids to 3. so i imagine that it won't be too hard to adjust. My mum managed just fine with twins and a 4 yr old, and she was home by herself all day. Twins usually come 2-4 weeks early.
3. keep doing what u doing and all will be well. this situation is so shocking that this is all i can say
4. 1.) I don't think you're crazy! Bless your heart for being the best father you can be, despite the circumstances of you being young. 2.) Life with twins is very hard. Having people to help you is important for raising twins. It sounds like you have a pretty large support team though, your parents, your girlfriend, and your sisters. VERY hectic. It will be even more of a challenge because you have a baby in diapers still, so that will be 3 babies and one 4 year old. You guys will barely get a wink of sleep. I'm not going to lie to you, it's going to be hard. 3.) All babies necessities. just times TWO! very costly. 4.) I think it's wrong for you to have unprotected sex at your age, but what's done has been done. For you to step up and take care of it and take responsibility is very honorable. If you have strong paternal instincts, which it sounds like you do, then do what you think is the right thing. 5.) Basically everything I told you for question #2. Good Luck!
5. so you and your girlfriend had intercourse and she was pregnant at 12 years old??? what the? you and her are 16 now and already have a three year old? you had a baby not even three months ago and your girlfriend is already pregnant again... and knows it is twins? hmm 4 kids at 16!! omg... where is dhs! you are children yourselves... this is just sickening and so sad!! you want to wait to have more kids... what the hell!!! SHES PREGNANT WITH TWINS!!! isn't 4 kids enough... WAKE UP ITS CALLED CONTRACEPTION...oh i just realized you probably don't even know about sex ed as your first baby was when you were 12...lmao... amusing to answer
6. You're 16 and you have two kids and are about to have two more? Wow. Twins are tough. I'm a twin and I have twin nieces. It's much tougher because there are two at once. Your GF can join a local MOMS club, which stands for Mothers of Multiples. Some stores will give you a discount when you buy for two kids at once. It's also harder for the pregnancy to go all the way to the end because your GF is giving birth to at least 10 pounds worth of babies, so they're more likely to be born premature. Really, though, you two need to get some reliable birth control. The reason why you can be good parents is because you have a lot of help from your extended family. That gets harder for everyone as you have more kids. Your kids will do better with you than with someone else, I think. However, they will do best if both you and your GF get an education and get married. You can make more money with an education, and children feel safer when parents are married to each other.
7. okay come one, you obviously know where babies come from, why the heck would you have unprotected sex so soon after having a baby, that is out of control, and good luck having a toddler and two newborns and a four year old. good luck, I have seen moms go crazy when they were well off, and could hire a nanny, but that is too much. You should be scared no offense if this is a real question. You should have been scared after the first one. College is hard enough with one or two kids. Not impossible but seriously .
8. your not crazy for keeping your kids! with twins you need two of everything and twice as many diapers. you should be proud of yourself for taking responsibility for your actions and raising your children
9. Honestly, you are either lying or have some serious family/outside support. If you already have 2 kids and you're nervous about having more that's a little odd...seems like you should have learned something by now. No? I don't care how much you love your kids, how much you take care of them, support them, your family, girlfriend, whatever. You guys need to take a break from kids, you're not rabbits. Use birth control. That would show you actually care.
10. I think that it's wonderful that you take such good care of your family and I can tell that you love them very much. But you have to think of the future. Are you going to be able to take care of 4 children? It sounds like the only way you are making ends meet right now is because you are getting alot of help from your family. Plus you aren't able to work right now and I'm sure that is hurting your financial situation. You need to really think about this decision. Only you can decide if you will be able to provide for a family of 6, your GF, you and your 4 children. Nobody else can answer this for you because we don't know your finances. However, nobody could judge you if you feel that you can't take care of two more children right now. And nobody would judge you if you put your twins up for adoption. As a woman who has not been able to get pregnant and who is looking for a child to adopt (i'm not trying to steal your children), I just need to say that there is a family out there somewhere who could give your children a wonderful and loving home. I hope that you decide to choose life and adoption over having an abortion. I wish you the best of luck in what you decide.
11. OMG! This is the most incredible situation I have ever heard of !!! Jeez! I am 25, married and expecting baby # 1, yet I am scared and confused out of my mind. What advice do I give a 16yr old with a 3rd old child, a 2nd baby and # 3 & 4 on the way? Out of my jurisdiction! All I can say is "Good luck and God bless!"
12. Thanks for answering my question =) To be honest ive never been in your situation and i cant even imagine having a kid at the age of 16 and how hard that must of been for you guys, but wow to have two kids and then twins on the way that is quite the handfull. You guys seem to be doing pretty well given the circumstance and Im pretty sure if you can handle two kids already you can handle another two.. well maybe with a little bit of help lol but like you said your parents are supportive and they help fincially support you guys so im sure with your job and your gf's job in addition to your parents helping you out with money you guys will be fine. Its not going to be easy but things will get better for you guys, I promise! Your girlfriend should try taking birthcontrol pills or that 24 hour pill thats basically works like the birth control pill, if she still wants to have sex with you just in case of another pregancy lol. good luck and I wish you guys the best <3
13. well all i can say good luck on your future your going to need it, should have kept it in your pants. all i can do is pray for you 2 thats y having sex at 16 is illegal
14. I would have to say that this is the most extravagantly insane lie I have ever heard. You need to find something better to do with your time rather than making up fantasies that you would never survive if they were true. I tried to give you the benefit of a doubt. But you've asked several times, each time its a different story. Your emailing people and telling them different stories as well. First off...dont you its illegal to have sex under the age of 16? Second, my God if this were true...keep it in your pants. Third...there's no way she can be pregnant again far enough to tell that your having twins. Your not supposed to have sex for a few weeks after giving birth. Even so, she wouldnt ovulate that soon either. Her uterus wouldn't be ready for another baby that quickly.... a week you say? It also takes time after becoming pregnant to discover twins. This would be a good lifetime movie though
15. wow.. you were very young like 13 when you had your first kid thats crazy haha sorry, but yes keep the kids and as long as yall are going to stay together and get married and be happy as a family good luck and god bless
16. You seem to have everything under control. Who cares what age you are, when you can act as mature as you do and handle everything so well? You are definitely not crazy for keeping the kids. You would be crazy for getting rid of them. From what you wrote you seem like great parents. Idk what life is like with twins, but i'm sure it would be great :) Twins need the same things that all babies need, except you have to buy two of each thing.. lol. Nervousness is a very common feeling when you have young kids, so don't feel bad about feeling it. Try thinking about all the enjoyable times you will have with your kids - you will watch them grow into the people you raised them to be. Thinking of that makes me excited, very far from nervous! So I hope it does for you to! Good luck with your family :)
17. My answer: No, you are NOT crazy. You're both very young, but you're obviously great parents, and you have friends and family to help you. I don't know what life is like with twins - hectic, probably - but so what? It's natural to be scared. I'm a teen, and I can't imagine having kids at my age, but of course there's nothing wrong with teens looking after their babies. As long as you can, you should. It's got to be a handful, but you're doing great so far. Like I said, it's natural to be scared. Just try to be prepared. I'd try a parenting site - you'll find people with experience, and your twins questions should be answered. Good luck. :-)
18. wow, young age, but you made me think there... &&you're not crazy for keeping your kids, they're yours life with twins, im not sure but reading science articles, as they grow up, since they are constantly with each other ALL the time, they may grow up to depend on each other and say they go to school, in kindergarten, they may have to spilt up, one may face a hard time adjusting without their twin, do you get my point? so let them become independent kids, like send them to different sports teams or something like that what stuff you should prepare: practically double of anything try to stay away from one single gendered clothing in case you have one girl and one boy definitly milk bottles basically the usual and from what you told me, you have two kids? thats good enough experience. is it wrong for teens to take care of there babies? well, people say it's wrong cause they thinkg your too young but if you're a responsible teenager, which there are a few in the world, it should be fine don't let other people tell you that it's wrong, it's not what you do that matter, it's how you're gonna accept the consequences that matter. what should you know about twins? ohkay, having one baby, two babies, or three at a time the woman's belly is still gonna be around the same size not twice as big for twins so the twins are going to come out a little smaller than one child in a stomach you get my picture? like say, i had a box of cheerios, and i wanted to fit in two pacakges in a box that only fits one, then you're going to have to shrink or something sorry, stupid example, but my point is, there gonna come out smaller cause they need to share space any advice for less nervousness, BREATH!! you've had experience im sorry if my answer was too long but i was trying to answer each question i wish you the best of luck with your children and you girlfriend &&i was wondering, your girfriend was preganant at 12? how did she deal with that? doesn't it hurt? like either natural or c-section
19. seriously your a very good guy n parent. the good thing is that your still with ure gf because not all guys are like that especially at age 16 .. they all leave there girl with the kid n move on wit another girl... n about twins my sis in law has twins is the same as having one kid but ull jjust see 2 same faces is really cute. dont be nervous trust me is gunna b ok ... &&& what age did u get ure gf pregnant??
20. its normal to have kids... but ur too young and ur 16.. with almost 4 kids... im guessing u had ur first child at the age of 13 rite.. well i wish u da best..